What this test measures
Attachment is the largest category because it is the framework with the most empirical support behind it. The love languages material is included because it is culturally everywhere, and the questions treat it as the popular framework it is rather than as validated science.
| Category | Questions in bank | What it covers |
|---|---|---|
| Attachment | 9 | Bowlby and Ainsworth, the four adult styles, and how early bonds shape later ones. |
| Communication | 8 | Repair attempts, the patterns Gottman identified as predictive, and the love languages model. |
| Compatibility | 8 | What actually predicts relationship stability, and the popular beliefs that do not. |
| Boundaries | 5 | Where autonomy and closeness meet, and what healthy limit-setting looks like. |
The 30 questions in the bank are weighted toward the categories above; each session draws 25 of them, so no two attempts present the same paper.
A real question from this test
This item is taken directly from the bank, not written for illustration.
The four adult attachment styles are secure, anxious-preoccupied, dismissive-avoidant, and:
- Codependent
- Fearful-avoidant
- Narcissistic
- Independent
Show the answer
Fearful-avoidant, sometimes called disorganised. It combines a wish for closeness with a fear of it, which produces the approach-then-withdraw pattern. The other three options are popular vocabulary rather than attachment categories, which is what makes them useful distractors.
How your score is calculated
Scoring runs on the proportion you answer correctly, put through a quadratic curve so that accuracy at the top of the range is worth more than accuracy at the bottom. The result is mapped onto the familiar scale where 100 is the population midpoint and 15 points is one standard deviation, then reported with a percentile and a per-category breakdown. Questions left unanswered when the timer expires count as incorrect.
Compatibility is where scores drop most, because a lot of widely repeated relationship advice is not supported by the research. Similarity of personality predicts far less about relationship stability than most people assume, and several questions in that category turn on exactly that point.
How to read your result
Scores land in one of seven bands. The population percentages describe the standard distribution these bands are modelled on, not the people who have taken this particular test.
| Score | Band | Share of population |
|---|---|---|
| 145 and above | Highly Gifted | ~0.1% |
| 130 – 144 | Gifted | ~2% |
| 115 – 129 | Superior | ~14% |
| 100 – 114 | Above Average | ~34% |
| 85 – 99 | Average | ~34% |
| 70 – 84 | Low Average | ~14% |
| Below 70 | Below Average | ~2% |
A single number is a summary, and the category bars underneath it carry most of the useful information. Two people can reach the same total by very different routes. If you want to see where your score sits precisely, the IQ percentile chart converts any score on this scale into a rank.
Frequently asked questions
Will this tell me my attachment style?
No. It tests whether you understand the framework. Identifying your own style needs a self-report measure such as the ECR-R, where you rate statements about how you feel in close relationships rather than answering questions that have correct answers.
Are the five love languages scientifically validated?
Not really. The framework is intuitive and widely used, and studies have not supported its central claims: people do not sort cleanly into one primary language, and matching partners on language has not been shown to improve relationship outcomes. It works better as shared vocabulary for talking about preferences than as a diagnostic tool.
What actually predicts whether a relationship lasts?
The most replicated findings point at how couples handle conflict rather than how much they have. Contempt is the strongest single negative signal, and the ability to accept a partner's attempt to de-escalate matters more than agreeing on the underlying issue.
Why is this test shorter than the others?
The time limit is 19 minutes for 25 questions because the items are scenario and definition based, with no arithmetic or diagram work. The timings across the site are set from how long the item types actually take.
Related guides
- The Four Attachment Styles ExplainedWhere the four styles come from and how they show up.
- What Is a Good EQ Score?How EQ scales work, and why components beat the total.
- The Big Five Personality Traits ExplainedWhat each of the five traits predicts, and why it beat the MBTI.
- Signs of High Intelligence (And the Myths)What the research supports, and the popular signs that fail.